Comments on: SYTYCD's Mary Murphy Recalls Her Abusive Past

by: Happypaws

Fri, 16 Oct 2009 03:05:13 +0000

Middle Eastern men, particularly Arabs, have less respect for their wives, than they do for their goats. This is true, I lived in Saudi Arabia for 4 years, & I saw it first hand. A woman has absolutely no rights, she cannot work, drive a car, or go out without a chaperone. For speaking with a man who is not her husband a woman can be thrown into jail, or publicly flogged, or even killed. A man can divorce her by saying "I divorce you " three times, & that's it, he's divorced. The poor woman is left on her own, usually her family do not want her back, because of course, she would be at fault as the husband divorced her. She would have been sold or traded as a 12, or 13 year old girl, for money or indeed the previously mentioned goats. She is an outcast to her family & brought disgrace as she is now the divorced woman & no use to them any more. It is an extremely sad life for Saudi women. Mary suffered a lot, she is lucky to have survived his brutal attacks on her.

by: lacatro

Thu, 15 Oct 2009 21:33:37 +0000

I'm sorry Mary had to endure NINE years of abuse. We need to make help more available to women so they don't have to wait so long to get out of an abusive relationship. Thank you Mary for sharing a personal and very hurtful time in your life. You may have saved one!

by: Arnulf Ø!!!SEMICOLON!!!verland

Thu, 15 Oct 2009 21:03:59 +0000

Re: Arnulf Ø!!!SEMICOLON!!!verland –

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It's not always the lack of knowledge that makes people say such idiotic things, even if it often is, but it's also a lot of times the lack of empathy. And I would never take pride in that. What makes you a social human being, is, among other things, being empathetic. The lack thereof only show an antisocial way of thinking, and it's disgusting. No shame, no empathy, no sympathy, no remorse, no responsibility - and no conscience. Just like the people who would, will and have done such things. Sympathizers for abusers, are rarely any different. They're the same color, just a different shade.

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by: Arnulf Ø!!!SEMICOLON!!!verland

Thu, 15 Oct 2009 20:59:16 +0000

If there's anyone out there, who's ever experienced anything similar to this, then I know you also have met such people. But be smart, be insightful - these are not normal people. Never forget that. Never let anyone or anybody tell you that you're the one to blame. That is not the truth - and it never will be. Love yourself and take pride in the fact that you're still here. You survived, now focus on living. Focus on those people that are good. I know it feels like there are few, in a world such as this, but believe me, there are plenty of people out there with empathy, insight and knowledge. Listen to them.

Best of luck. A.Ø.

by: Arnulf Ø!!!SEMICOLON!!!verland

Thu, 15 Oct 2009 20:58:49 +0000

It's not always the lack of knowledge that makes people say such idiotic things, even if it often is, but it's also a lot of times the lack of empathy. And I would never take pride in that. What makes you a social human being, is, among other things, being empathetic. The lack thereof only show an antisocial way of thinking, and it's disgusting. No shame, no empathy, no sympathy, no remorse, no responsibility - and no conscience. Just like the people who would, will and have done such things. Sympathizers for abusers, are rarely any different. They're the same color, just a different shade.

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by: Arnulf Ø!!!SEMICOLON!!!verland

Thu, 15 Oct 2009 20:57:20 +0000

This is the first time I've ever commented on anything that has been written on this site, and this is because this is the first time I've ever felt compelled to do so. I knew once I read the entry about her, that there would be ignorant, uneducated, mean spirited people writing extremely cruel and narrow minded things. Do you, the ones who judge her, laugh at her, mock her and supposedly "hate" her, even think? At all? Really. You obviously have internet access, which contains all the information of the world, so… what happened? Because you really have NO excuse for your ignorance. If you were from a nation without any access to any form of media that could give you the knowledge about these kind of things, then you would be excused - but your not. It sickens me. I would tell you to be ashamed, but that requires the ability to feel shame, so there's no use.

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by: Nikki B

Thu, 15 Oct 2009 20:37:19 +0000

oh wow. her screaming on the show is awful but its amazing she can be that happy after all of that. its chilling.

by: toshigirl

Thu, 15 Oct 2009 14:41:10 +0000

Re: La Vie En Rose – oh to be a racist….stupid american

by: toshigirl

Thu, 15 Oct 2009 14:38:25 +0000

i think its funny that just because he is middle eastern it is automatically assumed that he hates women, well obviously this specific person was a horrible person, middle eastern or not. there are lots of bad people, what about all of the men in the US murdering their wives and family, are they secretly middle eastern too? people deal with middle eastern people everyday in the US without even knowing it and they are good people.people need to open their eyes and stop being so ignorant!

by: ohperezluvyou

Thu, 15 Oct 2009 14:22:35 +0000

she's really annoying, guy must have been desperate