You are so right. My mother took a lot of abuse from my stepfather for a long while. Women who lie about being battered are experientially the more related to batterers than battered women, and men who are wrongly accused of battery are also more related experientially to battered women than they are to batterers. People who lie about violence trivializes real violence that people go through. They are there to discredit the entire movement to stop violence and they should be shamed.